But why? It could be that sex education is largely lacking and rarely, if ever, inclusive of how sex toys can lend to healthy and positive experiences.
It could be that most people still don’t know how to use them.
Or it could be that the world of sex toys is so vast that you may find yourself too intimidated to explore it. If it’s the latter, don’t worry — you’re definitely not alone. The key to embracing sex toys is finding one that works for you. Just like shoes and clothes, sex toys aren’t (and shouldn’t be) a “one-size-fits-all.” Your perfect sex toy is out there.
To help you find it, we rounded up seven of our favorites curated for your unique personality.
A rightful concern for the environment-minded is how eco-friendly sex toys are. If you’re worried about draining and tossing batteries into landfills, the Dolly Bi is the perfect toy for eco-warriors. Not only does it look like a dolphin, but it also charges using a magnetic USB. That means no more changing batteries — or trying to find a friend that can do that for you.
In fact, most toys from Fun Factory use this charging method. You can easily snag one of their hybrid kits to convert the few battery-operated toys they have to their USB system, too.
And obviously, that’s not the only awesome factor about this toy. The Dolly Bi is made of silicone, is waterproof, and has accessible controls. This means it’s easy to start, stop, or change vibration patterns mid-use. It’s also incredibly easy to lock, meaning you don’t need to worry about vibrating while you travel!
Plus, the pleasure level is oh-so-good. The design of this vibrator makes it perfect for dual vaginal and clitoral stimulation, just like classic rabbit vibrators.
If you’re known for your one-of-a-kind style and unique statement jewelry pieces, adore the Crave Vesper. And if Jane Fonda loves it enough to wear it on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show,” you know there’s something special about this toy.
The pendant is lightweight but packs a serious punch, both in design and vibration. It’s a very quiet vibrator, especially on the lowest setting. And because it’s stainless steel, it’s easy to clean. The Vesper has four speeds and charges via USB. It’s splash-proof, but not waterproof, so don’t submerse it. It’s important to note that the Crave Vesper is only meant for vulvar or clitoral stimulation, not for vaginal use.
This massage wand is arguably one of the most popular sex toys out there, especially for women with chronic illnesses: It can be a lifesaver for both sex and massage. As someone who lives with chronic fatigue among other chronic illnesses, I get horrible knots in my neck and back that are difficult to get out. Sometimes it takes several massages and acupuncturist visits to make any progress on said knots.
One of the things I’ve loved about being a sexuality educator is learning to use sex toys that vibrate to help with these rough areas. Products like Doxy’s wands can be great for sex, but they can also help eliminate some of the stiffness and pain that puts a damper in my day-to-day life with illness.
It’s worth noting that the Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand is corded, requiring you to plug it in. But I love the easy-to-use controls and pulsating function. And even better, you can purchase various attachments for the head of this wand to really customize your experience how you like it.